To Sir, With Love: To Become a Better Teacher, You Must Become a Student

To know something and to teach something are two entirely different things.

To become a better teacher, you must become a student.

It is not what you say but how you say it.

Know the difference between what’s best for you and what’s good for you.

There is no shortcut to learning hard work ethic.

Don’t try to be great. Good is enough.

Don’t make the world worse.

All of these exceptional pieces of advice come from teachers who learn it from other teachers’ teachers, who have learned it from experience. You either learn it through action (teaching a class) or though thoughts (reading a book). No matter how you take in information and upload it as an experience, it means nothing until it is (in this day in age tweeted, status updated, blogged, or) simply shared. As I was randomly reading through an article from the Journal of Teacher Education, I stumbled upon an insightful quote, “Experience alone is not enough. It is the thought and subsequent action associated with the experience which determines its value in the learning process”. In other words, thinking about what you do and how you do it brings value to your experience. Internalizing your thoughts and actions before and after an experience gives it value, meaning, and purpose.

We all know that knowledge is power, we must not forget that this power is forged with Uncle Ben’s advice to the young Peter Parker, “with great power comes great responsibility’’. Successes through experience are not stopping points, they are stepping stones. Experiences, whether good or bad, are always teachers. Experiences are things that you can learn from and take away from; they are selfless like the attitude of our teachers, eternal like the wisdom of our mentors, and self-sacrificing like the understanding of our parents/guardians. In order to achieve conclusions, end results, or milestones, the process of learning from an experience requires transition, movement, and a momentum shift towards the goal. The responsibility of great power is the ability to take knowledge and put it into a format of action: put ideas/thoughts into action! Absorbing knowledge, reflecting, internalizing, and analyzing it, transforming it into a skill or technique, and transferring it to others is the information learning process we must all adopt to become better handlers of information; better teachers andeven better students.

I have taken the above thoughts on experience, teaching, and learning, and have put it into practice. In order to become a better teacher, which I am always in the pursuit of, I have become a student. Starting with small baby steps, I have bought myself a package of dance classes to downtown Toronto’s Street Dance Academy. I took on my first dance class called “Beginner’s break dance”, and can conclude that it was simply an experience.

I put myself into an uncomfortable, humbling, eye-opening, mind-stretching, physically draining, and confidence realizing situation. As the late Randy Pausch from The Last Lecture says, “experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.” I wanted to be the best in the class, but realistically, I wasn’t even close. In my mind, any physical challenge for me is seen as attainable, but this time, time will be the answer. Through this dance class experience, I am growing a deeper awareness and appreciation for the students of my own classes. I am putting myself through the process of learning and reflecting upon my dance class experience by sharing it with others through this blog.

Ongoing, with more classes under my belt with dancing, I will be putting myself through an education of a different kind. One that allows me to grow my own skills and techniques, strategies, abilities to provide options, variety, range of choices, and diversity to my students and the people around me. As a student from the world of academia through The University of Western Ontario, my choice for an elective course is similar to that of my Street Dance Academy classes, but different in overall purpose. I have come to the point in my career where there is more to learning than simply learning for myself. I am learning for a higher purpose. I am learning to help others learn. I am growing myself to help others grow. I hope that one day, I can speak from experience and look back on this blog entry and say, “I have become a better teacher by becoming a student.”

Some Thoughts on "Trending"

Dick Clark said it best, “Don’t set trends, just find out what they are and exploit them”. Setting a trend in this day in age is practically impossible because someone, somewhere, at some time in this life or the one before has already done it or seen it. Sharing uniqueness and individuality is an overexposed, overdone, and practically overrated past time. Social media and the power of sharing have given individuals the ability to make individuality a commonality. The rise of television talent shows, the rule of Lady Gaga, and the roar of Gleeks all around the world have made the action of freeing your true unique self to the world, with no shame and no doubt, a trend.

I believe the technical term for trending is “Diffusion of Innovations”. It is a theory that seeks to explain how, why, and at what rate new ideas and technology spread through cultures. This theory and its connection with new trends fascinate me because I believe it is currently undergoing mass production chaos. Via YouTube, the amount of unique people uploading unique videos about unique ideas is so vast that it makes it harder and harder to find uniqueness. Unique videos must compete for viewer ratings and view counts day in and day out. Truly epic and quality uniqueness can be easily overlooked, forgotten, and outshined by an Epic Meal Time meat cereal or a double rainbow spotting. The diffusion process of innovations has sped up into fast forward mode with our beloved social media means. We churn out innovations and expose them to the world at lightning fast mouse clicks through facebook, twitter, and youtube uploading. We adopt innovations within days, if not hours of viewing. We reach a point of critical mass (when the trended video is at its peak view count) that only lasts shortly until another innovation overtakes its popularity. A popular song becomes overplayed and is considered overdone within weeks. The shelf life of a trend nowadays is becoming shorter and shorter that the motivation to start a trend is compromised, and the feat of rising into a trend has been tainted through the process of over-delivering quantity over quality uniqueness. My suggestion:

“Don’t follow trends, start trends.” … should in fact be, “Don’t follow trends, REstart trends”.

REcyle, REuse, REduce, and REstart. 

Let’s be mindful of our social media output and refrain from excess, unnecessary garbage status updates, let’s control our trigger-finger happy mouse clicking ‘like’ habits, let’s churn out quality uploads and share quality links, let’s put into practice our environmentally friendly law of recycling, reusing, and reducing as it pertains to online trends so that we can rid the world wide web of time wasting waste.

To take my viewpoint to an applicable example, I have taken it upon myself to restart a trend … my haircut. Along with Channing Tatum in the movie Magic Mike, I am re-trending the head-shave with a tight fade. My friend Ryan encouraged me to “BE BOLD” and just go for it, as he had done it himself hours before, so I went for it with no regrets. Guys, let’s move away from the Mad Men 50’s hairstyle, BE BOLD, and bring back the Justin Timberlake / David Beckham head shave trend of 2010, and be as fashionably functional as Mr. Tatum. 

Let’s take trending back to its natural process and not force it.  Let’s make trending unique, quality, and exceptional ideas, a process that nurtures ideas that evolve into classics for the future. 

Post-Peru Thoughts

Dear Family & Friends,

The definition of humbled: “1. marked by meekness or modesty in behavior, attitude, or spirit; not arrogant or prideful.” “2. Showing deferential or submissive respect.”

Two years ago, I trekked Mont Blanc, the highest mountain in the Alps of Western Europe (4810m). Mont Blanc was the first most challenging experience I’ve ever endured. Firstly, due to the unreliable ranges in terrain: from rocks and boulders to rivers and streams to mud hills to snow peaks. Secondly, due to my inexperienced packing skills, I generously carried 35lbs of weight on my back, through, thirdly, schizophrenic climate: rain, snow, sleet, heat, blizzard, and humidity. And lastly, the lung wheezing, leg burning elevations, making the CN Tower stair climb, combined with any number of squats and lunges seem like a minimal sweat inducing warm up.

I was humbled then.

I am humbled now.

I am writing to you now because I have lived to tell the tale of my trekking adventure up and around the overwhelming Ausangate Mountain in the Andes of Peru (6384m). On a straight numbers game comparison, Ausangate is not nearly as physically challenging as my Mont Blanc experience in terms of terrain, pack-carrying weight, climate, temperature and elevation, but there is one element that trumps them all: ALTITUDE. Any factor of difficulty falls deeply into the shadows of altitude during a trek. Rocks feel like boulders, snow feels like ice, warm feels like cold, cold feels like freezing, small day packs feel like luggage suitcases, hills are never-ending, night is never bearable, even for a Canadian, with two sleeping bags. Running is impossible, even for a marathoner. Walking is a struggle, breathing is a struggle, everything is a struggle. I sound dramatic and over-exaggerating, but the sickness that altitude brings speaks for itself. Constant fatigue, unexpected nausea, consistent weakness, throbbing headaches, projectile vomiting, and you don’t want to know #2’s. For someone who is used to conquering; not just completing, racing; not just running; going above and beyond; not just making the cut, my ego is a bit bruised, spirit bent slightly out of shape, but all in the good fortune of wisdom gaining.

How did I persevere? What did I do to survive? Why I continued on?

Attitude and Approach: after my bout with food poisoning and massive altitude sickness the first 3 days, I realized a Type A personality (someone who stops at nothing to get what they want when they want) could not survive. “Consistently Conservative” is the term I use to describe the Type B personality that would succeed any altitude challenge. Immediately, the Tortoise and the Hare story came to mind, I kept on reminding myself, “slow and steady wins the race”, and then naturally changed it to, “slow and steady wins”. The approach to the trek required patience and precise pacing. No race was to be won, there was no such thing as “conquering”, only the most satisfying feeling of completing.

Vulnerability: people have many sides to their personalities of which they choose to show to different people for different reasons. We put on different hats for different roles we play in life: boss, subordinate, leader, follower, parent, child, sibling, friend, and foe. As a coach, trainer, instructor, I wear my boss-man, terminator, leader, tough guy, superman hat almost everywhere I go. That hat is a permanent part of my role, it defines who I am and what I do, it is proudly worn as a badge of honor. But there are times when this hat need not be worn. After my first troublesome three days, I knew this hat would serve me no good; I saved myself by taking it off. The ability to let one’s guard down and uphold no ego is ironically something to be proud of, something to share, seek, and not hide. I let myself go, I indulged in helplessness, I became a follower and a listener. I reversed roles with my girlfriend savior, and sought her for leadership, strength, and nurture. One part of me thinks that I succumbed to defeat, another part of me, thinks that I opened myself to vulnerability. Ultimately, if I had not chosen to change my ways, I do not think I would be home as the person I am today, standing in shoes of which I can still be proud.

The Power of Sharing: we are social beings who enjoy sharing. Sharing stories, experiences, information, songs, photographs, whatever it may be, there is a cause and effect chemical reaction that takes place between the sharing people. One person gives and the other person(s) receive. The receiver receives the giver’s information and stores it as memory. However powerful this memory dictates the length in which it stays memorized. An epic, life-changing trek like Ausangate and Machu Picchu is a strong example of an experience that sticks in the receiver’s memory, enough to last the whole duration of the giver’s trip. This cause and effect reaction creates a bond. The giver has shared a part of their life that holds such high significance that a permanent memory bridge has been formed, hopefully encouraging further experience sharing in the future. This hope is what gave me reason for taking photographs, buying souvenirs, continuing up and over mountain passes, and enjoying my experience to the utmost.

The Power of Responsibility and Accountability: a wise man once told me the difference between being responsible for a task and being accountable for a task. When you are responsible for the completion of a task, your sole purpose is to complete the task in its entirety. When you are accountable for a task, you have made someone else responsible, and it is up to you to be responsible for that person who completes the task, not for completing the task yourself. A deep trust is involved and a skillful hands on/off approach is required. My role as a coach, trainer, instructor, is to be held accountable for my client’s fitness and health. My role was reversed the moment I decided to share my trekking trip with others. I was immediately accountable to others and responsible for completing the trek. This role reversal acted as my fuel, my motivation, my inspiration, and my duty. The obligation to “not let someone down” is as powerful, if not more than not letting yourself down. “The strength of a man isn’t in the words he speaks. It’s in how he keeps his word.” Amidst the entire struggle, in my head I could not let anyone down. I kept my word.  


Albums that I listened to during my trek:

Sigur Ros – Valtari – http://www.sigur-ros.co.uk/valtari/videos/varud-inga/
Tiesto – Club Life Miami
The Weeknd – House of Balloons
Mumford and Sons – Sign No More
Keane – Strangeland
Drake – Take Care / Thank Me Later

“Shrinking The Change” For That Summer Body With Summer Salad

As we finish a long hard day’s work, we look forward to a delicious full bodied Cabernet, paired with a wholesome full course meal. A fresh garden salad for appetizer, a nice juicy barbecued steak with a side of sweet potato fries (baked!), and asparagus garlic mushroom medley pouched in tin foil from the barbecue as well. Finally, to top it off, a scoop of frozen yogurt and some fresh berries. Sounds amazing AND pretty healthy. As some would assume, trainers all around the world would pick it apart and count all the unnecessary calories, then make you feel like a goofball for thinking this was “healthy”. BUT, that’s just a bit insane and extreme, even for me, a trainer!

A book I recently finished called “Switch” by Dan and Chip Heath say in order to take the right steps towards a goal (summer hot body), you’ve got to be realistic so that your goal doesn’t seem overwhelming, and “SHRINK THE CHANGE”.

The meal that I described above is a health conscious foodie’s favorite go-to dinner, an “eat this all day” fantasy, but can you eat this every night of the week? Is it feasible to eat this every night of the week? Maybe two times a week, maybe three. A bit of balance throughout the week seems to be the answer. Realistically, this meal will not help you achieve that summer body you so desperately want. Shrinking the change is a tactic that will help you enjoy the best of both worlds.

The salad in the photo that I have so graciously chowed down on comprises of: Kale, pea shoots, cucumbers, tomatoes, tuna, died cranberries, chia seeds, pumpkin seeds, homemade dressing (garlic olive oil, freshly squeezed lemon juice, pineapple juice from the pre-cut pineapples, smoked maple mustard, salt). Just like the fantasy meal I mentioned, this salad isn’t something you can eat day in day out, but maybe realistically once, twice, maybe three times a week.

So in order to achieve that super slamin’ summer body, you don’t have to force yourself to go to extremes with dieting. You simply have to balance out your fantasy meals with your summer body salad meals. To some, the change can be extreme; eating salads for dinner every night of the week. But for most, shrinking the change can be the key to building positive habits more easily; by eating salads twice a week, and your fantasy twice a week. Eventually, the notion that: salad for dinner just doesn’t seem to cut it, will turn into: salad for dinner literally cuts it (aka body fat), and seeing your results may be enough as a tipping point to continue on with salad for dinner.

With any goal you take on, make it as realistic as possible, and if it seems too overwhelming at the start, “shrink the change”, and find ways to change within your means, because ultimately, you are still on that path to achieving your goal, it might just be the one less traveled….with no short cuts.

One week until Peru & Machu Picchu… Jitters!

I’m heading to Peru to hike up the Ausangate Trail to Machu Picchu in a week and the magical aura is starting to dawn upon me. Everything I’ve heard has been nothing but positive. Am I tingling in giggly excitement or am I nervous in cold sweaty jitters? I think I am experiencing a bit of both. The positive promise, expectation, and forethought are as limited as the oxygen in Cusco at 3400m altitude; rave reviews, life changing experience, and personal enlightenment. Am I setting myself up for disappointment or am I harmonizing my pre-thoughts to a massive crescendo masterpiece upon arrival to the sacred Machu Picchu? I guess after hiking through a 10 day 5/5 difficulty G-adventures trail, I’ll have to live to tell the tale.

For the last few days, I’ve been quietly researching and superficially scouring through Lonely Planet books to orient myself to a trip of a lifetime. I’m trying to create that perfectly balanced preview trailer of this trip, doing my best not to spoil what remains as a remain itself (Machu Picchu), something of true mystery and intrigue, unknown to not only myself and its traveling tourists, but even to its indigenous natives, and to this day, unknown to all of mankind. The shock and awe will be automatic and expected, the anticipated allure of the unknown will still be unforgettable, the answers to the questions will still be questionable, and the oxymoronic memory of this place will be the biggest souvenir I’ll get to take back from any trip I’ve ever been on. The grandiose nature of this destination makes it almost impossible to think so highly of it, so can you really blame me for having such high hopes?

Anthony Bourdain says the older he gets, the more he travels, the less he knows. The more places he sees and experiences, the bigger he realizes the world to be, the more of it he becomes aware of, the more he realizes how little of it he knows, how many more places he has to go, how much more there is to learn. He says maybe that’s enlightenment enough, to know that there is no final resting place of the mind, no moment of smug clarity, perhaps wisdom, such that it is for him, is realizing how small he is, how unwise he is, and how far he has yet to go.


Bourdain reaches this conclusion of thought after his trip to Machu Picchu…


Worthwhile Lessons

Life is too short to wake up with regrets, so love the people who treat you right.
Forget about the ones who don’t. 
Believe everything happens for reason. 
If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. 
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
 

TED Talks: Perspective Is Everything by Rory Sutherland

Making decisions. Creating ideas. Gaining perspective.

Rory Sutherland talks about the power of reframing decisions and ideas by gaining perspective. Focusing on rebranding “what” we see into “how” we see.

“Advertising adds value to a product by changing our perception of the product, rather than changing the product itself. Rory Sutherland makes the daring assertion that a change in perceived value can be just as satisfying as what we consider “real” value, and his conclusion has interesting consequences for how we look at life.”

Technology, economics, and psychology must be integrative when it comes to successful decision making, engineering brilliant ideas, and providing long lasting solutions.
An idea must encompass the logic of technology, rationale of economics, but as Rory Sutherland argues a deeper insight from psychology.

When looking at solutions, there is no model for psychologists to follow. There are numerous insights, but no framework for consideration. But when looking at solutions technically and economically, there are a plethora of models and frameworks. Sutherland believes there is too much priority is given to technical engineering solutions, and not enough on psychological solutions.

To make solutions logical and rational, all you really need is time and organization. But to make solutions insightful and psychologically sound, you must provide certainty, perspective, relevancy, and value.

Certainty gives us hope and assurance. Our subways have recently acquired countdown clocks for train arrivals. We now have countdowns during our crosswalks. Sooner or later, like Korea, we’ll have countdowns for our red lights.

Perspective gives us context and a window of clarity. Techniques like chunking makes goal setting much less intimidating by breaking up the process of attaining goals into smaller and shorter parts. The cause and effect of money changes all the time; spending money versus donating money, spending money on yourself versus on someone else, money as happiness or money as convenience.

Relevance gives us a frame of reference of which we can use for comparison of solutions. Relevance can change our perception of a product’s value. New running shoes do not make you run faster or jump higher. A car wash doesn’t make your car function better. A designer brand name white t-shirt is still a white t-shirt at the end of the day.

Universal value is an oddball psychological factor, something that perspective has no control over, it is what products and ideas strive to obtain. Coca Cola is an example of a product with universal value whereby the President’s bottle of coke is the exact same as a homeless man’s bottle of coke.

In conclusion, look to improve the enjoyment and usefulness of a product along with its functionality. Be a psychological success, as much as an engineering and economical success. “Focus not on humanity’s hidden depths but on its foreign shallows”. Search for answers that are not without reach, but within reach. Work on the things we have, not on the things we don’t have. Understand the things we know, in depth, not the things we have no understanding of, or the lack of understanding for.

TED Talks: How To Make Work-Life Balance Work by Nigel Marsh

"There are too many people living lives (silently) screaming in desperation…
Working long hard hours at jobs they hate,
To enable them to buy things they don’t need,
To impress people they don’t like.”

People at their worst are temptation-driven, emotionally disengaged, have a distorted sense of reality and a dysfunctional sense of priorities.


“The SMALL things matter.”

...especially in how you see things. Have a big picture perspective balanced with current picture realization and small picture understanding. Sometimes the small things matter more because you have more control over them.


“Being more balanced doesn’t mean dramatic upheaval in your life. With the smallest investment in the right places, you can radically transform the quality of your relationships and the quality of your life. It can transform society, if enough people do it, we can transform the definition of success.”

To succeed, find balance between David & Goliath, the Tortoise & the Hare, and the Underdog & the Favorite. Uphold the positive attitude of David, the diligence of the Tortoise, and the modesty of the underdog. Have the passion, motivation, and work ethic, as big as Goliath, as effective as the Hare, and as promising as the Favorite.

Short Written Pieces Inspired by Jim Rohn Quotes

“Embrace the opposites > Embrace balance”

Life comes with its polar opposites: up and down, positive and negative, high and low, success and failure, right and wrong, good and bad, strength and weakness, hiring and firing, raise and drop, increase and decrease, hot and cold, friend and enemy, love and hate, angel and devil, triumph and tragedy. Trust that one opposite will always leadthe other opposite, follow the other, precede the other, and pursue the other. Wherever you are in between the opposites, embrace your direction, be mindful of the other direction, sustain movement, and be in balance.


“Be a Student of Life”

Study how you want to live. Study how to live this life. Be a student of life.


“Self Education is the best education”

Take time to learn about other things. Take more time to learn about yourself. The more you know about yourself, the more you’ll get out of these other things.

Inspired Leadership

Reflections on Simon Sinek’s Ted Talk on How Great Leaders Inspire Action

I am a “quiet leader”. You must be thinking contradiction, how can a leader be quiet? I have taken the concept of a leader and have transformed it to something that represents something beyond the conventional “loud leader” we all know.

I believe a quiet leader is someone who leads by action; one that leads by action first and words second, and at times, strategically, one that does not even require words. I have been inspired by Simon Sinek’s TED Talk called “Inspired Leadership”. He provides information on marketing and managing tactics that go above and beyond the no-holds-barred, profit pushing, dog-eat-dog styles we tend to adopt. Below are his quotes, my notes on his quotes, and his unique approach to leadership and how it can inspire you to become a better leader, whether loud or quiet.

“Think and communicate from the inside out.” Think beyond the numbers, results, profit margins, and measureable outcomes. Instead, think value, reason, depth, and purpose. “People don’t buy what you do but why you do it.” WHY first, WHAT second.

“Your goal is to do business with people that believe in what you believe. If you hire people just because they can do a job, they will work for your money, but if you hire people who believe what you believe, they will work for you and your purpose.”

Without followers, how can we be leaders? As leaders, how do we find our followers? Answer: the Law of diffusion of Innovation. Innovators 2.5% > Opinion Leaders 13.5% > Early Adopters 34% > Late Adopters 34% %> Laggards 34%.

How do you narrow in on your target market? Not just people who want to buy your service, but buy into your belief, purpose, and vision? There will always be 10% of people who “just get it”. You don’t have to work your magic on these people. They are those crazies who arrive 48 hours in advance, camp out, just to purchase the newest Apple products or simply enter a new Apple store.

The goal is to hit the tipping point for market penetration and success, which is the 15-18% on the law of diffusion of innovation scale.  Once this tipping point has been reached, we can claim the largest percentage crowd called the Early Adopters (34%). Answer: Convince the Innovators and Opinion Leaders (CHANGE AGENTS) of your belief!

Gladiator says “Win the crowd, win the war.” Win the crowd, one member at a time. Choose your crowd members strategically: one innovator and opinion leader at a time. Develop the ability to communicate your cause, belief, and vision. Influence with grace, class, and enthusiasm.  Never compromise your confidence. Talk about your product purpose and benefits, not your product specs and sales.  Talk about your WHY’s, not about your WHAT’s.  Then you will attract those who believe in what you believe.

To further Simon Sinek’s philosophy on leadership, Derek Sivers, another TED talker, provides us a different look on leadership.  He says that Leadership is over-glorified: “Aim not to be leader, aim to be a follower and show others how to follow, not how to follow the leader, but how to follow the movement in which the leader himself follows”.

Make the movement about the movement, not you. Nurture your followers as equals. A movement is about participation, sharing, and courage. “Have not the courage to lead, but the courage to follow”. Martin Luther King Junior presented the ‘I have a dream speech’, not ‘I have a plan speech’. He spoke about sharing this dream, having the courage to dream, and participating as a whole in achieving our dreams. He never once dictated how to achieve this dream with a plan of his own. Although King Junior was one of the greatest orators in American history, he was a follower first, a leader second. He followed the likes of Howard Thurmin, Bayard Rustin, and Mahatma Ghandi. He followed the belief of non-violent resistance and civil rights. He embodied these principles. He was a leader who led by action. He was a quiet leader.

Clicking: Mentally, Physically, and Emotionally

Here are my notes from the book CLICK by Ori and Rom Brafman


Magic matters – clicking requires magic, serendipity, and perfect timing – we simply need to put ourselves out there and open up to these opportunities.

The power in vulnerability – our willingness to risk being vulnerable can deepen the quality of our relationships and make us more likely to connect with others.

A few feet make miles of a difference – the smallest distances play a major role in determining who we click with, we need to recognize this and focus not on what is in the distance and future, but what is right in front of us and the present.

Being in the zone helps us create resonance and allows others to be drawn to us. Pay attention, listen, observe, reach out, and take their emotional temperatures.

Similarity: quantity trumps quality – find similarities like you find eggs during an easter egg hunt. It’ll help create a bond and intensify it.

Environmental factors – overcoming challenges or adversity can help to stimulate or encourage clicking.

“Self-monitors” are people who instinctively modulate their emotions to match and meet others emotionally – be a self-monitor and be aware of others and take mental notes, it will pave way to deeper connections.

Being with people we click with makes us perform at a higher level – increased willingness, openness, honesty helps increase productivity.

Clicking can be magical. It can change the nature of a relationship not only in that moment, but forever. It can help us achieve our best selves.

Exercise: Don’t just think outside the box, think beside the box

Exercise is simple and straightforward. We must not think inside the box; by seeing exercise as a chore, as another item on the “to-do list”, as a fallback priority, as something to do “if” I have time, as a luxury, and as a financial investment. We must not overextend ourselves and go above and beyond to think outside the box either; by seeing exercise as the end all and be all, an item that we make too much time for, make an obsession, become OCD over, place on a pedastel, and become unnatural about.

Think beside the box.

Work within your limits, create balance, foster enjoyment, play to your strengths, work on your weaknesses. Be resourceful, use what is within reach, ask for assistance, value the tools you already have.

The Divine Destroyer

She killed me with kisses
She hurt me with hugs
She beat me with blessings
She attacked me with affection
She angered me with adoration
She scarred me with smiles
She controlled me with caresses
She manipulated me with money
She played me with pain
She lured me with love
She left me with lust.
Guilt-laced embraces, Careless caresses, Lame games and shame names.
A glass half empty with scotch. A glass half full with tears.
A frown forced to smile. A heart filled with emptiness.
Scarring smiles, Hurtful hugs, Killer kisses.

Note: It's nothing personal—just a piece of creative writing that I lost myself in!

 

Movie Review: 127 Hours

Based on the true story of Aron Ralston, this dramatic thriller by Danny Boyle (Slumdog Millionaire) encapsulates the mental and physical challenges one is faced with during survival. James Franco gives us a great depiction and performance that convey all arrays of the emotional spectrum. With such a simple but bizarre scenario; being trapped by a rock in a cave corridor struggling to survive for 127 hours, the cinematography and flashbacks sequences add dimension and depth to such a simple plot of which the end is already known. When directors make movies based on true events, it puts them at a disadvantage from the start. The ability of the movie to keep the audience engaged is not on how the story unfolds, but on how the story is told – this is what divides the good from the really good. Hats off to Boyle for a job well done.


Overall, the movie makes you laugh, choke up, nail-bite, hold your breath, grip, jaw-clench, teeth grind, and smile. Not for the faint of heart or weak stomach. Honestly, I came in with high expectations which unfortunately takes a tiny chip off my concluding review. It was inspiring, gripping, creatively shot, a seat-edger, with a solid lead performance, but just couldn’t live up to Slumdog. I guess an unfair shadow was cast upon Boyle’s follow up with 127 Hours. I was not blown away but I was entertained. Would not see again, but would recommend, but only for DVD or on demand.


2.5/5

Timing: A Love & Hate Affair

Timing is everything: from patience stems maturity, and from maturity stems experience.

Time is our foe, time is our enemy
Time makes us wait, time makes us rush
Time is too short, time is never enough
Time takes too long, time takes up space
Time brings us impatience, time brings us anxiety
Time is always ticking, time is always counting down
But time is our friend, time is our love
Time makes us patient, time makes us virtuous
Time is maturation, time is progression
Time makes growth, time makes experience
Time nurtures, time develops
Time is natural, time is evolution
Time is always wanted, time is always needed

Feel Goods

Went on a long run today, thought up happy thoughts and thought I’d share them with you guys. Feel free to add more "feel goods". There can never be enough! 


  • Smiling Strangers – especially cute ones with dimples

  • Kids with Glasses – think jerry maguire kid

  • Crisp Clean Air – think mountain air, not the don valley

  • Fireworks – especially with someone special

  • Soul/Motown Music – on a sunday morning 

  • Fresh Towels – out of the dryer

  • Double Rainbows – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQSNhk5ICTI

  • Pocket Money – especially when you discover it after a wash

  • Cool Accents – south african, aussies, proper brits, and jamaican

  • Completed To-Do Lists – that “ahh, I feel like an accomplished human being for the day” feeling

  • Warm Breezes – when you are lacking a sweater you were going to wear but thought you’d Canadian-it-out

  • Runner’s High – you have to feel it to believe it

  • Goal Assists – the glory of a goal is something, but knowing that you made it even possible is something else

  • Heartfelt Hugs – especially when both huggers are closing their eyes

  • Sun Rains – shows you that in life, even in nature there is irony, but ultimately it’s all in your perspective: happy sun on the outside, but rainy dark on the inside….or…..sad rainy on the outside, but truly sunny bright on the inside  

  • Sunsetting Sky – monet like skies (vanilla sky), the end can be just as beautiful as the beginning and vice versa

  • Sunrises & Coffee – especially when the morning is cool enough to see the hot coffee steam in the sunlight

  • S’mores & Bonfires – especially with a smokeless fire and a friend with a guitar

  • Cool Room and Warm Bed – makes the bed that much warmer and yet inescapeable

  • Full Tank of Gas – especially when you thought it was empty….one less task to think about

  • Random High Fives – shows you the universe it rooting for you

  • Flowers in Bloom – the moment of true beauty

  • A Hockey Deke-out – all your skills amounted to one moment, executed to perfection, another moment of true beauty

  • The Smell of Sauteed Onions – after the laborous peeling, suffering, chopping, crying; the sweetness of something so bitter finally reveals itself and makes you think….it was truly worth it…

  • The Perfect Golf Swing – paired with the contact of a golf ball and a sweet on the green landing just shy of the cup…..drool

  • The Smell of Freshly Baked Bread – especially when it was your creation

  • Being the first to jump into an untouched pool – it is always exhilerating being the first, being #1, starting a trend, even if it’s just you and the water

  • Catching the gaze on you from a beautiful stranger – makes your head bigger in ego but your soul blush in flattery

  • An unexpected compliment – makes you realize that all the little things that you do that you thought no one would notice, are actually noticed and enjoyed by others

  • A photo opp too beautiful for a photo – you are in awe, your breath is truly taken away, your knees buckle, you just have to sit down

  • A blast from the past – whether friendships, old flames, or acquaintances-hoped-for-friendships, they show you that you can time travel and live in the past, present, AND future

  • The moment you remember something that’s been nagging you – moment of clarity where you feel like you have suddenly evolved into a higher being….hehe

  • Old Couples – shows you that love can last a lifetime

  • Pillow Talk – so comforting and intimate, shows you how close you can be with someone at your most natural state (think of people in your life that you can pillow talk with, these people are the people you truly trust and love)

  • Basketball Swoosh – especially when it is for the win or when your team really needs it to boost morale

  • Midnight – a crazy cool time of day; it’s neither night or day, evening or morning, dark in sight but bright at night with the moon.Post Teeth Brushing mouth – so fresh and so clean, so fresh and so clean!

  • Sharing a Breathtaking view – these are the best photos you can take….with you mind, that will last forever

  • Sea Breeze – being seduced by the sea, spiritually sexy (if that makes any sense…)

  • Starry Skies – “shoot for the moon, and if you miss, it’s okay, because you will still be among the stars”

  • Hearing the wind blow – feeling it is one thing, but hearing it is truly spectacular….not mind-blowing, but senses-blowing

  • A tennis Ace – accumulation of power and precision, the essence of athletic giftedness

  • The sound of a path crunching under your boots when hiking – makes you feel like you are on a mission towards something big 

  • Car Seat Warmers – especially when it has been unexpectedly preheated for you and it is freezing outside

  • A Hot Shower – especially after a day of cleaning or a hard days work, the cleansing is almost therapeutic

  • Catching/Cooking/Sharing your dinner – The process of creating something out of nothing and having the ability to share it with others….this simple procedure can be an allusion to many bigger things in life that make you feel significant. You just have to make the time to think about it and reflect.

Dedicated to Kapeli & Co.